Everyone wants to be great. You want to do cool things and be an amazing person. Success is your motto and your end goal. It’s not some secret that everyone wants to get better, to be the best version of themselves. But why are there people that don’t achieve that, despite how much they want it? It’s simple: they’ve got the wrong mindset. And it’s not for lack of trying, you could try a bunch of things and never achieve success. Why? It’s because your brain is holding you back. You’re not incapable of doing great things, you just haven’t been given the proper tools to do so yet. If you’re the type to give up when the going gets really tough, this post is for you.
What You Need to Succeed
You’ve got the motivation, you just need the skills. You could try a million, a billion, a trillion different things and not get very far. If you’re the type to give up when it seems like the world is against you, you’re not going to get as far as you could. Whatever your goals are, if you want to have amazing relationships, if you want to make a ton of money, you need to have grit. If you can’t handle the worst things in life, you’re going to break down and run, just when success might be around the corner.
We’ve all been there. We’ve all given up at one point of our lives. Giving up when the going gets tough can be something as insignificant as not putting in the effort to solve a math problem when we don’t know the answer. It can range from things of extreme consequence to avoiding certain things like the plague. You’re not alone; I know that I’ve given up on things too. Everyone does it; it’s practically inevitable. And it stems from either a lack of confidence in our ability to do something or from a desire to protect our fragile egos.
We Have the Power to Change
But, we’re not to blame for this mindset. It’s simply that often times, especially when we’re growing up, giving up doesn’t look like a bad option. There’s no real consequences for saying that you can’t do something. Say you suck at basketball, right? So your friends invite you to play with them and you’d really like to play, but you refuse. What are the consequences? Well, nothing really. You go on your merry way and you never touch a basketball again. You give up on your dream and learn that it’s okay to quit.
But say that instead of giving up, one day you go out to shoot a few hoops. The first day you miss every shot. Sure, it doesn’t feel great. I never said it would. But, you keep on going to the court everyday, shooting hoops for a few hours. After a few days, you’re making more shots than you did the day you started. You got better, but it wasn’t a god given gift that blessed you with this new talent. You got better because you practiced. And this is the key to success.
I Taught Myself How to Code
When I was younger, I taught myself how to code. It wasn’t anything too advanced, but it was something that I was interested in learning. When I started, I had no idea what anything meant. I was so lost, trying to find my way in a new computer language. I could have given up. There wouldn’t have been any consequences. It was something that I was learning in my free time, because I wanted to.
Truthfully, I didn’t really know that I would ever really need it, nor did I fully understand how I could apply my newfound knowledge. But it’s one of the most useful things that little-me tried to learn. Fast forward to now and I own a blog. It’s really beneficial to know how to code, because I use it pretty often on this website.
Learning how to code led me to other things. Maybe if I hadn’t had learned HTML and CSS, I never would have had the confidence to start this blog.
Never Giving Up
When I started this blog, it was hard. I wasn’t making any money and there was a lot of things that I had to do. And I didn’t know how to do most of it. I had to set up a bunch of things and it was all alien to me. For the first few weeks, there wasn’t anyone coming to my blog and it was a little, bit disheartening. But I didn’t give up. I pushed though, learning all that I could, gathering the strength to publish one more post. And eventually people started to come.
I wasn’t naive enough to be believe that this would be easy. I knew that I had to be willing to put in the work if I wanted to see the fruits of my labor. If I had given up, I would have left defeated and never seen the stream of people that came in.
I never accepted defeat as an option, because I knew that I could rise up to see even a minuscule success. This is why I’m writing this post. This is why I’m still blogging.
It’s interesting to keep working on this blog, to watch it grow, to see more and more people come. And it really makes me happy to see that people are seeing my content and engaging with it, because I’ve invested so much work into it.
I could have given up a long time ago, but I didn’t, so you shouldn’t give up on yourself either. I know that you can achieve your goals. But, wild success is never a walk in the park and you’re going to need to be equipped to handle it. You can’t just give up on yourself.
The Tools to Succeed
Most of us are never fully taught how to reach our own potential and it’s not our fault. Usually when we give something up, we’re unaware of exactly what we’re going to miss out on. Most of us avoid the initial inconvenience of trying to get better at something, because it’s uncomfortable to be vulnerable. So we don’t do it. It’s hard to expose ourselves and show that we are somehow less than.
If we saw how good we could get with a little bit of practice, less of us would be quitting. More of us would be taking on new challenges and experiences. If we want to do great things, we have to challenge ourselves and be willing to put in the effort to improve.
Think of all the great athletes. They didn’t just wake up with their amazing bodies and win world championships. They trained and trained for hours on end. Maybe at first their bodies resisted. Maybe they woke up with aching bones. And maybe there were days that they didn’t want to go to practice, but they did it anyway. They overcame the initial inconvenience of learning something and sucking at it. And this is what you’ve got to do. You can’t just give up when things aren’t going your way, because you’re never going to grow as a person.
You’re Holding Yourself Back
You’re perfectly capable of doing great things, but your brain is holding you back. If you want to do amazing things, you shouldn’t be asking yourself how to get out of difficult situations. Instead, you should be asking yourself how to get through them. Running from a problem might make it worse and you may just end up running into the same problem again. Remember that the situations that challenge you most, are the ones that help you grow the most.
So, trust me, if you can get better at something, do it. It’s worth it. You’ll rise like a pheonix from the ashes. It might not look like it, but every skill that you learn in the present with help you in the long run. Everything that you learn can be applied to other things. And there’s always something to learn.
If you want to be successful, there’s no magical spell that’s going to make all your problems go away. the secret lies within you.
Sometimes you may have to give up, because you won’t have any other option. In these circumstances, just remember to try and solve your issues before running from them. As you’re trying to solve your problem, just give it some time before you decide to end it. And only end it when you know that continuing would either be a waste of time or a threat to your safety. If you stick through it, it will help you grow and rise out of it a stronger person.
After all, sometimes giving up is the better option, it just matters that you put in the effort and gave it your all to get through it.
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